I don’t have a fishing pole. I don’t want a fishing pole.
Oh, and I also don’t have any desire to be good at fishing.
So, there you have it. I’ve just given the summary of this article right at the start. We’re talking about the two essential ingredients that absolutely must be present in any scenario in which you want to affect any kind of positive change: AWARENESS and SKILL. We discussed Awareness in the previous article. And my thoughts on Skill; well, that’s summarized above.
To get good at something, you have to want to. And you have to go for it! Work at it. Practice.
I don’t want to be good at fishing, so one does not have to be a prophet to foresee that I’ll never be a good fisherman. One only needs to know that I don’t care to be skilled at fishing to know that I never will be.
This is all fine. In fact, to most readers, it will register a big, “Duh – we know this!”
So, here’s the question: If we know this, why do so few of us apply this simple rule of thumb that you’ve got to want the skill in order get the skill and you’ve got to practice the skill to really acquire it? In order to master ourselves, master the art of human relations, and be maximally effective in the ways we serve the world around us [Personal, Interpersonal, Professional – the emphasis of this blog], then we’ve got to learn and apply the skills that get us there… not just read stuff we agree with.
Do you want to stop sabotaging yourself? Do you want to stop being a part of the reason relationships fail? Do you want to accomplish more with your life?
I know I do. Do you? Well, do you? You don’t unless you are willing to learn and apply the requisite skills.
Failing to take the step of going beyond awareness, including the awareness that you’ve got to learn and apply certain skills in order to effectuate change, you will stay right where you are. It’s not enough to know you’ve got to learn and apply skills. You’ve got to do it!
If you want to be a good fisherman, you’ve got to start practicing! Don’t just agree that you need to start practicing … which is like what many of us do when we read books on personal development, and agree with what we read, but do not take the concrete steps advocated in the books. That’s being irresponsible!
Want to blast through thinking patterns that have gotten you nowhere personally, interpersonally, and professionally? Start practicing new thought patters. One suggestion: go visit PJ McClure, The Mindset Maven, get his book and devour it — then go visit Noah St. John at the Success Clinic and get his book, The Secret Code of Success, and become an expert at what he calls “afformations”; asking the kinds of questions that supercharge, and give specific direction to, your subconscious.
Don’t just read. Acquire the skills. You can do this.
Now do it.