In these posts, I draw upon my many years of experience as a counselor, mentor, voracious reader, and entrepreneur (… oh, and a four-year stint in full-time youth ministry), to help readers blast through personal, interpersonal, and professional obstacles that stand in the way of the outcomes that lead to a happier, more satisfying personal and professional life. We’ll work through how to get through bad stuff in order to get to the good stuff.
But does that explain why you should read my articles and keep coming back? To be candid, no.
I will tell you why I have valuable things to share with you here at the Obstacle Blaster blog.
Before I tell you Why, here’s not why you ought to read my articles and keep coming back. Do not read my stuff because my articles draw from years of experience as a counselor, mentor, voracious reader, and entrepreneur… or because I spent a few years in full time ministry, helping and serving others. Nope. That experience isn’t that relevant. For most people, that stuff is not worth as much as the other source of my wisdom… what amount of wisdom I have.
The biggest source of inspiration and passion that fuels my writing is one that tends to mean something to most people. It’s real simple: I am a documented failure and screw up.
According to Niels Bohr, Danish physicist and Nobel Prize winner, “An expert is a person who has made all the mistakes that can be made in a very narrow field.”
By the Bohr standard of expertise…
• I am a business, branding, and general marketing expert. As a former marketing consultant (which is where I made a whole bunch of money in the early 2000’s) and owner of my own small marketing consultancy, I ultimately failed in all the ways one can fail.
* I am a relationship expert. So says my two failed marriages.
• I am an expert in workplace relations. So says my past as someone who contributed to all kinds of workplace negativity as a boss.
• I am an expert in forgiveness. So says many of my life experiences, some that go back to childhood, after which I lived for many years in victimhood and bitterness, and learned that unforgiveness is a great way to ensure lifelong unhappiness.
I was a multi-millionaire (on paper) before I was 40 years old. Thinking I was invincable, I leveraged it, spent foolishly, hid losses from bad decisions from my wife, and ultimately lost my house and family.
Within an an 18-month timeframe I went from watching all the Seattle Seahawks home games from the posh environment of my own 24-seat luxury suite at the stadium, surrounded by family and friends, to loading up a U-Haul with the help of my dad and one friend.
I am an expert in pain and loss. And all that pain and loss has been the fertilizer for new life and new growth and new success acquired the right way.
So now I really am a successful person. Why? Because I have learned how to turn painful life experiences and epic failure into life lessons that have changed me for the better… and thousands of others. In fact, as Ive already alluded to, some of my life’s failures – if we’re going to use that word – have been spectacular debacles; enormous mistakes; mega lapses in judgment. I’ve been a millionaire and I’ve experienced a foreclosure. I’ve made a lot of people mad (for the right and wrong reasons) and I’ve made a lot of people happy.
In short, I’ve learned – through personal study and especially through the applied research of excruciating experiences – how to blast through difficulties of all kinds. No matter how big the past setbacks have been, I’ve learned how to continue to overcome obstacles. In fact, I’ve succeeded because of, not in spite of my past flops. I am an Obstacle Blaster.
So, Why the Obstacle Blaster blog? Here’s My Why…
To me, there’s generally no such thing as failure (as you’ll read at this blog). If you so choose, you can make it so that all the painful and pathetic things in your past can work together to help make a phenomenal future. I am fanatical about helping people get out of, and stay out of, painful situations in life, in personal relationships and at the workplace. Take seriously what you read here and you will be an Obstacle Blaster too.
Although I am a life coach in the areas/topics you see dealt with here, do not make the mistake of referring to me as The Obstacle Blaster. If and when obstacles get blasted, that’s your doing, not mine. I don’t blast obstacles. You do when you decide that’s what you want to do and when your desire to get rid of the obstacles is greater than your desire to allow them to stay in your way and to allow those obstacles to continue to be a daily part of your life.